You know what? Anger isn’t always the real deal. It’s like a sneaky little emotion that shows up when we can’t express our true feelings. It’s like a backup plan, protecting us from the more vulnerable stuff that’s lurking beneath. When we feel hurt, scared, let down, or just plain sad, but can’t quite put those emotions into words or deal with them head-on, anger jumps in like, “I got this!” It’s like a tough guy act, making us feel strong and in control. It’s a way to hide the real messy feelings that might be uncomfortable or too hard to handle. But the cool thing is, if we can recognize anger as a cover-up emotion, we can start digging deeper and figuring out what’s really going on inside. That’s how we can work on our emotional well-being and get to the root of the matter.
Helpful Hit: It may be necessary to slow down the conversation or take a break. If you do take a break insure that you tell your partner when you would like to continue the conversation (i.e. 30 minutes, after you take a shower).
Coffee Note: The origin of coffee can be traced back to Ethiopia, where the coffee plant was discovered in the 9th century.